There is only one you. Whether you realize it or not, you are special. Somebody thinks you’re a rock star. (Probably a whole bunch of people!) Stop hiding behind what you think you should be and just be the real, authentic you. You will be happier and that will make those around you happier too.
Everyone has ideas about what a Mom should be. They come from expectations put on us by our society, our communities, and our families. Moms need to adjust their thinking so that they can take some pressure off! Once we let go of who we THINK we should be, we can relax and just be ourselves. A happier, less stressed version of ourselves. Doesn’t that sound lovely?
I have this picture of what a “good mom” should be. You know who she is? This is so ridiculous, but I’m going to tell you anyway.
– She’s a woman that loves her family. (check)
– She’s that 1950’s woman who kept a clean home. (fail)
– She serves her family fancy dinners. (total fail)
– She grows her own vegetables in the garden. (I have a weed garden!)
– She has nice hair (me: ponytail) and adorable outfits. (me: jeans and tees)
Oh, oh. Let’s add a little modern day “good mom” to my description…
She’s also Pinterest perfect.
– Yep, she does ALL the crafts. (It’s all I can do to keep my little one from eating the crayons.)
– She makes the adorable, homemade outfits. (I sewed a curtain once.)
– She makes pancakes in the shape of Mickey Mouse for her children and other equally fabulous treats and meals. (Hot dogs and fruit snacks, anyone?!)
She is SUCH a good mom.
I wish I was that Mom. The real, authentic me hates to cook. I hate gardening. What do I like? I like wearing my hair in a ponytail. I like listening to personal development podcasts, reading, traveling, and taking my kids on adventures.
I am going to give myself permission to throw away that “good mom” idea in my head and realize that being a good mom means being a happy mom and being a happy mom means doing the things I really like and not doing the things I don’t like. Sorry kiddos, you will never get a gourmet lunch box meal from me. It’s not my style.
So please, fellow Mom, shake off that person you “should” be and just be you. Everyone was born with a very unique set of gifts and talents. Let’s accept the fact that not all of us are Martha Stewart.
Tap into those gifts you were given and share them with those around you. Be the real, authentic you.
PS Do NOT let another mom tell you that you’re a bad mom because you don’t do it their way! There’s more than one way to pack a lunch! 😉