I have been meaning to start this blog for awhile. It was my New Year’s Resolution to start blogging two years ago. What stopped me? FEAR. I was actually dusting off my writing skills for someone else. I wrote one article. It was sweet and simple and thoughtful. Then, that person told me they DIDN’T want me to write for them. They said, “Nobody cares what you have to say, anyway.”
Nobody cares what I have to say.
NOBODY cares what I have to say.
NOBODY CARES what I have to say.
I let that statement sink in to my spirit. When I allowed that to happen, FEAR settled in. You can’t start a blog. Nobody cares what you have to say. You are certainly no expert on any topic. You want to write about Motherhood? Sure you’re a Mom, but what do you really know? You struggle every day. Some days are good, yes, but some days you fail miserably at being a good parent. What if you make a fool out of yourself? What if you really do suck at writing? What if you fail?
FEAR. I allowed FEAR to eat at me. I continued to talk and talk and talk to my friends (sorry peeps!) about blog ideas, articles, what content I could put out there that might be encouraging or relatable to other moms. But I didn’t. I just keep letting FEAR keep me captive. Kept telling myself that I wasn’t good enough. I continued to tell myself that nobody cared what I had to say.
It actually makes me cry. Not kidding you. I’m sitting here in the public library working on my blog, and I’m welling up. I can’t believe I was so weak. I can’t believe I let some other person tell me MY value. I cannot believe that I allowed myself to be paralyzed by FEAR for so long.
So what makes today different? It’s my birthday. The day that I was brought into this world. I’ve seen 36 of these special days so far in my life, and if I’m lucky, I’m not even halfway to the other side. This day is about birth. This day represents a new beginning.
I’m giving myself a birthday gift today. I’m taking the word FEAR out of my vocabulary. I am shaking off the chains that hold me down from my highest potential. I am a good person. I do matter. I have value, and people DO care what I have to say.
FEAR is like cancer. It can get inside and spread until it paralyzes us and crushes our spirit. FEAR is a dream killer. There is hope, though. You can wrestle FEAR down, shove it in a box, set the box on fire, and be free. (If only it were that easy!)
I can’t take away your FEAR, but I can offer you this…
You are a good person. You matter. You have value.
Don’t wait for some special day to get over your FEAR. Start today, because what you have to offer the world is too important to wait one more day. Don’t allow FEAR to kill your dreams.
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If you’re allowing FEAR to hold you down, here’s a few simple tips to get you to overcome it.
5 TIPS TO OVERCOME FEAR
1. Write down all the reasons that you will benefit from taking action. No one accomplishes anything without a reason. If you didn’t have a reason to accomplish that thing (whatever your thing is: losing weight, starting a new business, traveling, etc.), you wouldn’t need to take action at all. Find your “Why.” Why this is important to you? Let this list of reasons motivate you to move forward and overcome that fear.
2.Write down a list of all the scary things you’ve already overcome. Build your confidence by showing yourself how much you’ve already accomplished! There’s nothing you can’t do. Look how much you’ve mastered already!!
3.Get Help. Find someone who’s accomplished what you want to do. Study their habits. Ask them to mentor you. There’s a lot of knowledge to tap into. You’re not the first person to ever want that thing. Let someone guide you to accomplishing your task!
4.Make a Plan. What would you need to do to accomplish that goal? Start with all the big things you’d need to do. Make a list. Now break it down into smaller tasks. Okay, now break it down into tiny, tiny bits. It doesn’t seem all that scary anymore, does it?!
5.Take ACTION! Take one of those little tasks, and dip your toes in. Pick one little thing and do it right now. Then pick the next thing. Keep taking tiny steps forward until you gain confidence in the direction you want to go. Just don’t give up. Keep moving forward. You’ll get there eventually!
Are you ready to overcome your fear to make your dream a reality? Go for it!