Fall is the best, am I right?! It’s the time of year where the air gets a little crisper (at least it does where I live). You can feel the change in season. For some people (especially for those with school aged kids), this is the beginning of a new year. If you pick up any school planner, they start in the fall and end in the summer. That’s why I think this is the perfect time to reevaluate our yearly goals.
Remember those things you said you’d do way back in January…Have you accomplished what you set out to do?
Uhhh… Me neither. So let’s use fall as a reset. A refresh. A do-over. Let’s pull out our new notebooks and sharpen our pencils. Let’s plan some year-end goals! There’s still time to make some changes and end the year having created something great!
What is a goal?
A goal is a dream turned into reality. It’s an idea that you have in your head and your heart. If you take actionable steps, you can and WILL achieve what you set out to do!
Why is it important to have goals?
Goals give us purpose and direction in our lives. If we’re just surviving each day instead of taking action and being proactive, then we’re not really living life to the fullest.
Wouldn’t you rather run in the race and win than sit on the path and hope you don’t get ran over? Even if you don’t win, you’re at least moving forward with purpose- not stuck in the same spot!
Plus, we want to set a good example for our kids, right? If you don’t set goals and go for them, what are you teaching your kids? We want our fabulous little people to shoot for the stars, so we need to show them how to aim high!
I’m a Mom. I don’t have time to set goals for myself. I’m too busy taking care of everyone else.
I hear you, Mom! I know exactly how you feel. I’m right where you’re at. I have two toddlers and a baby at home. My time is scarce, and I take it when it becomes available to me. You should too. Find a way to make time for yourself so that you can work on YOU. You will be a better Mom for it!
Take turns having a free evening with your significant other. Ask a relative to entertain your kiddos. Pay a babysitter. Trade time watching kids with your other Mom friends! If you want it bad enough, you’ll find a way to make it happen. If you don’t really want it, you will continue to find excuses.
How do I set a goal?
You may have already heard this, but just in case you haven’t, I’ll explain.
Be S.M.A.R.T. about it. What does that mean? It means Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Timely.
- Specific- What do you want to achieve and WHY? That’s so important. If you don’t have a “why” attached to your goal, then you won’t have a reason to follow through with it.
- Measurable- How will you measure your progress? You need a way to track your progress and know when you’ve accomplished your goal.
- Attainable- How can this goal be accomplished? What skill will you learn or action will you take to make your goal happen? I think this is key. Break down your goal into little chunks. If you say I’m going to organize my entire house, that’s pretty overwhelming! You can have the big goal of organizing your house, but break it down room by room. Within that room, drawer by drawer. So instead of cleaning and entire house and saying, “That’s so much! I can’t even deal with this. I give up!” Say, “I’m going to clean these two drawers in the kitchen today. Tomorrow I’m going to organize the next two drawers.
- Relevant- Is this goal realistic or worthwhile? For example, if your goal is to get 8 hours of sleep a night and you have a newborn, that’s probably not a realistic goal at this time in your life. Sorry new Mommy, you’re not going to be getting your uninterrupted beauty sleep for a while. It’s not that you CAN’T have that goal. It’s just a goal you’ll have better luck achieving at a different time in your life. If it doesn’t fit right now, pick a different goal.
- Timely- You need to have a time frame for your goals, otherwise there’s no motivation to make it happen! If you say you’re going to do something, but you don’t, it’s not a goal. It’s just a dream, a wish, or a shoulda-woulda-coulda. For example, I’m going to go to Italy someday. OR you could say, “I’m going to go to Italy in 5 years by saving $100 a month.”
Put a time frame on your goal, then take action to make it happen. If you don’t achieve it in that time frame, guess what? You set a new goal or reevaluate the goal you have.
How are we going to crush these goals by the end of the year?
- Reestablish your goals using the S.M.A.R.T. goal setting method. What do you want and WHY?
- Plan how you’re going to achieve your goals. Now that you have direction, make sure you are scheduling time to MAKE IT HAPPEN! Don’t allow your spouse/kids, your next-door neighbor or the fact that a rerun of Friends is on t.v. stop you from achieving your goals. Make a plan, and make it happen!
- Get accountability. Tell your spouse, your co-workers, all your friends. Don’t have any of those people in your life? Join a Facebook group or get a life coach. If someone knows about the goal you’re trying to achieve, they can help hold you accountable.
- Most importantly: You must BELIEVE IN YOURSELF. You are worth it. You deserve it.
Now go out there and Crush Your Goals!