This one is gonna hurt. I’m not going to lie. Buckle up, my friend.
The first line in my favorite self improvement book The Success Principals by Jack Canfield says, “If you want to be successful, you have to take 100% responsibility for everything that you experience in your life.”
Unless you’re basking in the sunshine with a tropical drink in your hand while your personal chef is whipping up your dinner and your maid is cleaning your mortgage free home, I’m guessing you’re probably not living your “perfect” life. It’s not your fault. I mean, you can’t help where you live or how much money you make, right? Umm…
What does 100% Responsibility look like?
Being 100% responsible seems, well, impossible. After all, you can’t control the weather. You can’t control the fact that you’re stuck in your hometown at some low paying job. You can’t help the fact that your roof leaks or that your husband plays X-box until 2 a.m. You can’t help that your check engine light came on in your not-so-trusty-mom van and you had to put $478 worth of repairs on your credit card.
Okay, maybe you can’t relate to all of these examples, but I bet one (or more) make your stomach twinge just a bit.
Let’s break ’em down.
- You can’t control the weather. (We’re gonna skip this one for right now…)
- You can’t control the fact that you’re stuck in your hometown at some low paying job. Actually, you have unlimited options. You get to choose where you live, and you get to choose where you work. No one is forcing you to stay in either place. You are in control.
- You can’t help the fact that your roof leaks. You can choose to repair your leak, you can put out some buckets out to catch the drips, or you can ignore it. It’s your choice.
- Your husband plays X-box until 2 a.m. *sigh* You’re right, you can’t control your husband’s choices. (It makes for some really unhappy living if you do try to control your spouse. I don’t recommend it!) You know what you do have control over? The fact that you are married. You have a choice to love and accept him or kick his video-game-lovin’ behind to the curb. You have the power.
- You can’t help that your check engine light came on in your not-so-trusty-mom van and you had to put $478 worth of repairs on your credit card. Yikes. Stuff like this happens, and it appears to be out of your control. The hard truth is, though, that stuff breaks. If you’re responsible with your money, you can save up for times like these. The money you spend or save today affects your finances tomorrow. You are in charge of your finances.
You Can’t Control It, But…
Sometimes, you really can’t control stuff. Like the weather. Pretty difficult to tell Mother Nature what she should be doing. You know what you can control? Your reaction to the weather. You can say to yourself, “Because of the dreary rain, I can really appreciate the sunshine!”
You can not control the fact that your kid had a massive toddler temper tantrum in the check out line (complete with face down on the floor kicking and screaming). You can control the fact (and be proud!) that you calmly picked up your strong-willed child off the floor and held it together while you simultaneous wrestled your hulking toddler and paid for your groceries like the Rock Star Mom that you are.
- You’re responsible for every big and little thing in your life. You have control, power, and choices. If you hate it, you have complete control to change (or accept) the things that are not so great in your world.
- Sometimes you can’t control a situation, but in those cases you can control how you REACT.
- You are a Rock Star Mom!
Okay, Take a Minute…
Take a few minutes and inventory your life.
- Where do you feel out of control?
- How can you re-frame that to take back your power?
- If you want to change something in your life, what goals/habits can you put in place to make those changes actually happen?
You can do anything. You can be anything. You can have anything. (You just have to be willing to work hard enough to get it!) You are 100% responsible for your life!