A few days ago, I shared a Facebook post. “When you admire something about another woman, tell her. Get into the habit of lifting each other up.” – unknown. I shared this woman to woman. Mom to Mom. We all need this, don’t we?
We must, because at my count, the original Facebook post was shared 340,243 times. (I was one of the people who shared it!) What does this tell me? As women, we are hungry for approval from our fellow woman. (Being a Mom is hard enough, without adding the judgements from our fellow Moms!)
Woman to Woman: Why can’t we get along?
There are several reasons why we, as women, can’t get along.
- We’re conditioned to be mean. The fashion, magazine, and television industries (and pretty much everywhere on social media) encourage us to be catty about how another woman looks by critiquing her outfit and hairstyle,her political beliefs, and pretty much all her life choices.
- We’re jealous. Plain and simple, right? Sometimes we bring down another woman, because we want what she’s got. It makes us feel less than, so we even the playing field by pulling them down a notch or two.
- We see our selves in them. Ouch. This one hurts. That annoying quality we can’t stand in another woman? Sometimes it’s because we have a similar quality- whether we realize it or not.
Woman to Woman: How can we support each other?
- Be nice on social media. It’s so easy to be a keyboard warrior, isn’t it? Let out your frustrations in life by pounding away on a keyboard- finally being heard for once. It’s not really hurting anyone, or is it? Every photo meme out there is a REAL person. Tearing down someone online is hurtful. The world has enough trolls. Be friendly online. And if you can’t, well, just take that advice that your Mom probably told you. “If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all.”
- Offer to help. When is the last time that you reached out to another Mom? I’ll be the first to admit that I can’t even recall the last time I offered another Mom a helping hand. One way women can lift each other up is just by reaching out.
- Sprinkle Love. Become a compliment fairy! Tell your neighbor she’s a good Mom! Tell the woman who is ringing up your groceries that she’s doing a good job. Tell the lady in the parking lot that you love her purse. Tell your co-worker that she did a great job on that last project. Seek out women, and shine your light on them. You never know how your compliment can change someone’s day for the better!
The Bottom Line
Here’s the bottom line, Ladies. Society is going to keep pushing it’s warped ideas on us- telling us that we’re not good enough. (So that we’ll buy their products and services thinking that that will make us better!) Only women to woman can we change how to treat one another. It starts with you. Be the good.
(Paraphrasing a quote here…someone smarter than me said it, but I can’t tell you who!) People may not remember what you say, but they will remember how you made them feel. Let’s lift each other up!